Simply put, EQ means the ability to understand and manage your own emotions. People with a high degree of EQ know what they are feeling, what their feelings mean, and how these emotions can affect other people and vice versa. We all already know this, everyone thinks. Do you? Easy to check. Just ask yourself five simple questions and be honest with your answers.
Do you have a good understanding of:
If your answers to all the questions above is an unconditional YES - CONGRATULATIONS! You are superhuman, a perfect human being. You obviously always manage your emotions and behaviour optimally.
For all the less perfect readers, I kindly ask you to check your behaviour. In hindsight, can you recognise any situations, where you feel you could have done better? I did my behaviour analysis and found many situations, where, both at work and home, my behaviour was far from optimal. I realised that if I had had a better understanding of how my EQ can affect my behaviour, I certainly, many times could how done better, should have done better. Below just some examples. See if you can find anything familiar to you?
Nowadays, new EQ coaches pop up like mushrooms in the rain, offering their services, so obviously, there is a need. But this is not nuclear science; everyone can self-study the concept of EQ. Start by writing EQ in Google. After reading a few hours about emotional intelligence, you will have a basic understanding of what EQ is. You already know a little better, how your emotions can affect your actions and other people and how to consciously pay more attention to managing your emotions and behaviour “more optimally”. Do not stop here. The more you study this topic, the better your understanding of your EQ will become, and the more likely you will learn to manage your feelings and behaviour in a way that is in your best interest.